Monday, August 18, 2008

Letting It All Be Heard

I was going to write about baby sitters today. I'll save that for another day.

I was also going to publish a list of blogs, some on my blogroll some not, that I would have loved to invite to my dinner party but didn't because I'm a stickler for the rules. I guess I'll save that for another day, too.

I opened up anonymous comments on my PPD post awhile back. I never closed them. I wanted people to be able comment on the PPD post and share and I know that sometimes being able to share honestly means needing to stay anonymous. I had one or two anonymous comments. I felt ok with keeping them open.

I received an anonymous comment on my last post, the dinner party post. It wasn't mean but I felt it was wrong. I felt it was written with a motivation that was not very nice. I was bothered by it. I'm not sure many others saw it.

I deleted it.

I wavered over whether or not to delete it.

I open myself up to people commenting on here and because I left anonymous comments open, I open myself up to anyone and everyone. I generally don't have a problem with that. I am a public blog. I want people to read me and see what I have to say. If they comment, that's great. If they don't, that's ok, too.

Seriously. I'm not here for the comments. I'm here for the outlet and the community.

I found a great community of bloggers on AllMediocre and many that are not on there.

I don't know where the anonymous comment came from. I don't think.

I deleted the comment because it wasn't about me. It was about someone else and I felt like it was inappropriate to keep on here. If you want to attack me or rip on my words or feelings, go ahead. If you want to criticize me or what I have to share, go ahead. I ask that you be respectful. I ask that you respect my right to be here just as I respect your right to be here. I ask that you remember everyone deserves to have their words read and heard. I ask that you keep your words constructive.

More than anything else, I ask to share of yourself. If you have a blog, share it. Why does it have to be one against another? If you have words and feelings and emotions to share, share them. You will find an incredibly compassionate and understanding group of people in the blogging world, including me regardless of what you may have said to me or about me on my blog.

While I was upset by the anonymous comment left this morning, I will not be closing anonymous comments. If you truly feel that is the only way to get your voice out than that's ok and I don't want to take away anyone's voice or right to share.


Kate said...

That's too bad. I will never understand why people feel the need to be nasty. I have gotten so much joy and support from blogging. It should be a positive thing.

Helen E.M. Wright said...

How is someone commenting about someone else on your blog?!? Especially in a not nice way!

If you feel uncomfortable about a comment by all means delete, anonymous or not! That's my rule of thumb!

I hope it didn't ruin your day!


A Buns Life said...

I just don't understand why people do that....I'm sorry. I have anon comments open on mine as well, and so far it has been a good thing (since I have written about some pretty serious things, where people may want to comment, but not be known) and I hope it doesn't ever burn me. Good for you for keeping yours open too. :)

Feener said...

well said. ok was it something about me ??? seems so strange, i guess it is like real life some folks can not do the if you have nothing nice to say say nothing at all, but the fact that they can HIDE is upsetting.

crazy working mom said...

Good for you. I would have deleted it too. If the only way someone can comment is anonymously then they just shouldn't comment. Shame on them. You've done the right thing for sure!

ConverseMomma said...

You Rock!

Immoral Matriarch said...

I wish I had been able to read it. It's crazy how people act when they are hidden behind the pseudo anonymity that the internet provides.

Manic Mommy said...

Some people live for spite.

Thanks for stopping by. I wanted to add to my previous list:

"Stop licking the remote!"

Kids are gross little animals sometimes.

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