Friday, December 19, 2008

Tossing the Time Away

In the midst of falling snow and the smell of fresh cookies I did something that I have been putting off for quite some time.

I threw away all of the baby bottles in my home.

My daughter has not used a bottle since she was roughly 10 or 11 months old. The bottles have been sitting in our kitchen cabinet since the weeks before she was born. I had no problem ridding myself of the nipples for said bottles but I could not bring myself to toss the bottles.

Until today.

I don't know why. I'm not really sure what compelled me to hurl each and every single one of them into the empty garbage can. I just know that when I was done- a mere 20 seconds after I began- I wanted to cry and I had to hold myself back from diving into my garbage can to dig the bottles back out.

I piled more garbage on top them to make sure that I did not fish them out. I baked more cookies. I took my kids out in the snow (THAT was an experience!!). I talked to friends on the phone and online. I straightened up a bit. I did all that I could to keep myself away from the garbage can.

I did not have to throw them away. I could have put them in a box and put them away until the next baby comes along. I could have tried to donate them. I could have just left them.

Something made me throw them away. And then immediately question it.

What if we have a third baby? What if I just jinxed myself and I end up pregnant? ( SO NOT GOING TO HAPPEN!!!) What if someone else really needed them?

And the other side.

Why didn't I do it sooner? What was I waiting for? We may not have another baby. People don't want used bottles, even if they were just to hold the liners. Why was it such a big deal?

I don't think it had anything to do with a third baby. I don't think it had anything to do with the fact that any time I see a newborn or a picture of one my ovaries actually skip a beat.

I let go of the last piece of my daughter's babyhood. Well, ok not really, but kind of. Those bottles made me think of those early days. They reminded me of how far we've both come. They made me smile each time I opened the cabinet and sometimes they even made me a little misty.

Next week we're potty training the girl. It's time. I would love to be able to start the new year with two kids out of diapers. After that the crib will go. She's been speaking in full sentences and is growing at an incredible rate. The months have flown by and yet at points seemed to go so slowly.

She has gone from my teeny tiny preemie to a toddler and before I know it, a little girl. Today, I threw away her bottles and I felt like I was throwing away a little piece of myself and her. I guess the reality is that I wasn't throwing away a piece of either one of us, just making room for the new stuff to come.


the MomBabe said...

OH! It's so bittersweet isn't it? I know just how you feel.

Kimmylyn said...

Yep.. I totally get this.. even though I know we are done having still hurts when I pass each stage with the baby because I know it is the last time I really will be doing it..

Hugs.. xox

Merrily Down the Stream said... that end bit. Nice poat. My twins will be 7 at the end of march - I can't believe it! I find myself looking back at photos constantly and I realize that ALL traces of toddler are gone. These are tall young people and where the hell was I when THAT happened?

Zoeyjane said...

I have the opposite attitude. She's not growing fast enough in some areas for my liking. I mean, potty training did itself, but do you think I can get her out of the crib?! No way. Which kind of really puts a damper on the exmas present of a big girl bed.

Momo Fali said...

Aw. It's bittersweet when we have to do stuff like that. I still have baby blankets in a closet upstairs and my son will be SEVEN in May!

crazymumma said...

bittersweet. you know what took the place of the bottles we HAD, but neither ever would use?

an Easybake oven. I kid you not.

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