Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Just a Few Things

I realized this morning on my way into work that November will be here before I know it.  It's already the middle of June and the thought of two babies entering our lives within the next 4 months is somewhat scary.

And the comments from some people who know or find out we're having twins have not been helpful.

First, a few things:
1.  I have every intention of returning to work after the babies are born.  I love my job.  My work is important in the grand scheme of things and it keeps me sane. 

2.  Yes, we do have help.  I have wonderful parents who have- even before finding out we were having twins- have pledged their help to us no matter what.  My father-in-law has been willing to help us at every turn, as well.  We are well taken care of and, shockingly, we have somewhat successfully raised two children up to this point so there is a chance we might be ok with two more.

3.  I am FULLY aware of how hard this is going to be.  I don't know exactly what it's going to be like but I'm not expecting to bring my babies home on a cloud in a golden chariot.  I'm giving birth to two of them at once and that, in and of itself, scares the shit out of me. 

4.  I have already given up basketball for at least the next season but I have every intention of coaching softball.  I work with an individual who is not just another coach but he is a very good friend and he loves my kids, to boot.  He is an understanding individual who wants to make sure that we have a winning combination to create a winning team and if that means my kids are practice once in awhile, he is ok with that.  Plus, I work with a group of girls who ADORE my children.

5.  While I may not be GREAT at math I do understand the basic principles of addition and I am fully aware that 2 existing children + 2 soon to be born children = 4 children.  Yes, I will have 4 children.  Yes, we are instantaneously doubling our children.  Yes, I am aware that I am one child away from making the starting 5 of a co-ed basketball team.  Rumor has it that people have had more than 2 or 3 kids before....hell, my grandmother had 11 at one point AND was taking in foster children.

6.  While I may chuckle about the fact that God's plan never really goes the way you think it's going to, I don't need you to laugh heartily in my face about it.  I'm scared for a variety of reasons but more than ever I have put my faith in God and I know that he would not give me more than I can handle nor would He abandon me and my family during this time of joy, excitement and sometimes fear.

So, now, when you and I talk about my pregnancy or me having twins could you maybe, just maybe, remember that I'm not some freak of nature and this isn't some cruel joke.  There is a grander plan for me and maybe even for you...who knows?! 

November is going to be here before we know it and I'd really like it if maybe I could rely on you for some help and support and hopefully a hospital visit because it gets REALLY lonely in there!


Miss K said...

I m amazed s how insensitive people can be. I hear the comments that my twin mom friends get and it is really annoying. (Take this time to work on some witty retorts.) I always thought that someone's reaction is a good measure of how they view themselves as parents. Hang in there!

Huckdoll said...

Trust me on this one! The comments, opinions, questions and attention you're going to get from family, friends and complete strangers is going to blow your mind, girlfriend. This is just the beginning and it will get worse, that is a promise.

My advise is to just take it all with a grain of salt, let it roll off your back, keep calm and carry on :) You don't have to answer or explain anything to anyone.

And especially during the pregnancy I found that any sort of mental stress or outside anxiety affected it negatively. I carried mine full term (38 wks) but basically went on a 'princess bed rest' free of work and any mental or physical stress at 20 weeks.

CrAzY Working Mom said...

I don't know what I'd do without my In-laws to help me with my children! It is wonderful to have help.

It sounds to me like you have the right attitude about it all. Those babies are a precious gift from God and you know it! ;) Always seek him for guidance and never worry about what others say or do. You'll be just fine. I think you have the love and support you need and in the end, that's all you need. ;)

Take care!

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