Wednesday, January 13, 2010

The Ring

My husband wears his wedding ring 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.  There is something about that fact that I really love.

Last night as I lay in bed and he snored, quite loudly, I felt his hand under my pillow and his ring was there.  It's always there.  At night I like to run my finger along it or play with the ring while he sleeps.  Knowing that he has it on all of the time gives me this warm feeling, a feeling of love and devotion.

There is something special about that to me.

Now, there is a VERY good chance that he wears his ring all the time because this his second wedding band.  The first one, which I designed using stones from his mother, is gone.  It's been gone since about a year and a half into our marriage.  Lost, never to be found again.

But I like to believe that he wears this ring all the time because he wants to, not out of fear of losing it.

I know men, my grandfather was one, who couldn't wear their rings.  They worked jobs where there was a possibility that their hands could become permanently damaged if the ring were to stay on.  That did not make their rings any less special.

I also know men who do not wear a ring at all.  Ever.  This is something I find upsetting.  I understand that sometimes it doesn't fit.  Sometimes it's lost.  Sometimes it's forgotten.  But there is something about not wearing it, ever, that bothers me.  I don't know why.

But at night I lay in bed and I feel the cool metal around my husband's finger and it reminds me of our devotion to one another.  It reminds me of our wedding day and our days since then.  It reminds me of the unbroken circle that we have and the strength that the circle possesses.  And I realize that I don't need a ring to remind of all of those things because I have him to remind me.  And it's in that strength I find love, friendship and, often, my own strength.

10 comments:

Stacy said...

Me too! My husband is the same. Wears it always. I love to see it, and feel it too. My dad couldn't wear his b/c of his job, like you said it could cause injury. We friends where the wife makes his husband takes it off all the time. Like to shower, and do the dishes or work around the house. Which is insane to me. They have the same bands as we do, so nothing fancy. Funny

natural girl said...

My sweetie can't where his because of his job and it does give me a pang. YOur blog was great and made me wish even more that he could wear it. As you said I have him to snuggle up to and know that this is forever.

Brigitte said...

Lovely to read! I agree, seeing my husband with his wedding ring on gives me such a sense of security, commitment and love and i love it that he loves to wear it!

CrAzY Working Mom said...

What a beautiful post! My husband is in a profession where he cannot wear his. But, you're right. It doesn't make it mean any less. :)

Mommy X said...

Aww, this is just incredibly sweet. I just love that. Sounds like you have a really strong bond. XO

Miss K said...

That's really sweet :)

Merrily Down the Stream said...

Lovely.
I like to touch it when we are umm... consummating the marriage - the ring I mean...

Helen Wright said...

Since we have been back in Canada we both wear our rings. Funnily enough, I could not wear mine as it took my skin off while living in the south. Here, it's fine. Meanwhile, C's work down there made him not wear his.

Natalie Duvall said...

I need to know. The women whose husbands can't wear their rings at work -- do they wear them when they're not working?

Melissa said...

Lovely. I lost my great-grandmother's wedding ring IN MY KITCHEN a few months back and am heart sick over it.

I came to check out your blog after you read and commented on my article on NJ Moms blog. Thank you so much for your comment, and for your own story, relating to mine. Best, Melissa

 
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