Wednesday, December 30, 2009

What If We Just Left It Alone?

It starts with a few unreturned phone calls.

Maybe some ignored texts.

Then the cancellations.

Outings with others, people left out.  Ignored.

The obligatory brief emails.  Updates on crap that doesn't even matter.  The big stuff was missed.

Random chats.  Occasional facebook posts.

The meaning is gone.

It becomes forced.  Pushed.  There is nothing to talk about.

Nothing to say.

Where once there was laughter and endless chats. 

There is nothing.

But was there ever really anything?  Was it real?  Was is EVER there?

Sure.  There was something.  But it just wasn't meant to be.  And it's sad and okay all at once.

And it's not because the ending wasn't natural.  But it happened, and it's done.

And we continue to force and push because we think we're supposed to.

But what if we just left it alone?

What would happen then?


MomBabe said...

Oh how I love this. so so much. you know when it's forced. it's not worth the effort. you feel so much better when you just let it go and move on...

Mommy X said...

Gosh, Stella...I have so many of these things happening right now. You just hit me in the chops with this. Quite honestly, I think I have closer and more meaningful relationships with my blog sisters than I have with those people I used to hang out with and giggle till 2 o'clock in the morning back in the day. Seems kind of sad, but the world just keeps on turning. Things change. It's like the old "reason, season and lifetime" thing. Some people are with you for a reason, some for a season and some for a lifetime. You don't always know. Great post, though. I totally feel you. XO

Miss K said...

The past few years have been a period of shedding friendships that have been forced. Probably because I had kids and that really shows you who is willing to make an effort to keep in touch.

natural girl said...

I have to say I have a few of those situations going on right now - glad to know I'm not the only one. But its hard to let go sometimes. Especially when there's a glimmer of the old relationship and then Bang the door closes agian and your'e left wondering " what did I do?" Now I am getting closer to F@#$K it who cares.

Kim said...

It is no wonder I read this just now.. it fits something perfectly that is going on in my life.. sorry for the blabber, but I am super tired..but so glad I read this today..

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